My on/off boyfriend is really confusing me atm. He'll only text me when he wants to. Only sees me when he can be bothered, yet tells me he loves me and wants us to work. Last night for example, I went to his at 11.30 at night and was home by 12, he said he was tired, he'd been with his friends all day. Am I asking to much, if all I wanna do is spend a couple of evenings with him, and have him reassure me?
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Okay chick, how long have you been dating? If it is not long..then do not worry too much. I suspect he is how my boyfriend was when we first started dating. He always wanted to spend more time with his friends! SO ANNOYING! But, eventually he wanted to spend more time with me...And, then there was a rough time in our relationship in which he randomly wanted to see his friends more than me..Due to some issues we were having. But, I backed off...let him know I didn't care and that I was happy all by myself and with MY friends. This is what you should do. DO YOU. If you truly love him and want to be with him and you know that it IS worth it...then do this..Try not to care. I suspect it is early in your relationship, if I am right..then do not worry he will change over time..he will get attached and miss you and want to see you and eventually you will be in a stable, secure relatonship. I am not sure by what you mean on and off? But, if you are not happy maybe he isn't the one for you? If you think it is worth it..then try what I said...Do not continue to let him know it bothers you...this is our biggest mistake, I think. It is okay to mention it and let him know once..But, if he does not try to change it and make you happy, then start doing it to him. When he wants to see you, DON'T see him. Tell him you are busy out with friends. And try to reschedule or something. He has to know that you are important and you have a life too. And, you are not going to just wait for his phone call around the house doing nothing and jump every time he calls to see you. He doesn't sound like a great guy if you ask me no offense...But, men can change...And, you know him more than me. Clearly. Good luck :-)0