We didn't date for long (maybe 2 months) but have been friends for a couple of years. I was developing feelings for her when out of the blue she was becoming distant. When I finally talked to her she said she had too much work/not enough time to date...basically she blew me off. Within weeks I find out she is dating a mutual friend (something she only admitted when I questioned her). All of this has really damaged our friendship and I wonder whether I am overreacting as it was only for a short time we dated? But I feel that having been friends (and not just 2 people who had just met) she could've been honest with me about:
a) her feelings for another guy (I knew about him liking her beforehand but she reassured me she wasn't interested)?
b) why she had to blow me off with the busy/work excuse when their was obviously another reason?
Things are just pretty awkward between us and we share a lot of mutual friends. Part of me thinks swallow my pride and just move past this but the other thinks why try to be friends when she clearly doesn't have that much respect for me. Sorry if this sounds like a rant, I needed to get it off my chest. If I had my way I probably leave them to it and wouldn't bother maintaining any form of contact but the fact that we have the same group of friends makes it a little impractical to do that and also makes me come across as immature.
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there is a chance she didn't tell you because she though it would hurt you to know that she was looking into dating someone you knew. she could most likly tell that you were developing feelings for her. The distance feeling was maybe her pulling away when she felt things were about to move to something else she wasn't up for. this is just my point of veiw many women make their life harded because their not just up front with what is going on. It isn't untill much later you learn to just tell the truth and deal with what comes from that.0