My boyfriend and I have our problems, but recently we worked out some of them and I've never felt closer to him. The only problem is, when I was mad at him, I asked a male friend of mine to hang out. Not a date or anything. I had no intention of cheating, but I guess I was being insensitive to his feelings. My boyfriend says I'm allowed to do whatever I want, but I know that if he saw me and my friend together alone, he would not be happy. I still want to maintain a friendship with my buddy, but I really don't want it to look like cheating. He recently asked me to hang out with him, and although I want to, I really don't want to do anything that would break any trust with my boyfriend (or give him reason to cheat on me). I suggested he hang out with me AND some other friends so it doesn't look like a date. What else should I do? I tell him that I love my boyfriend, so hopefully that helps. And for the record, I think my male friend is very attractive and I think he may have feelings for me. I don't know how I'd feel if I was single, but the point is, I'm not, and I don't want to lead him on.
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You can hang out with someone and not lead them on. Just watch what you do. Make sure your flirting is limited and that you don't get physical beyond a hello and goodbye hug. You don't need your boyfriend's permission to hang out with other people. If his trust is weak enough to be broken because you hang out with a male friend, then you guys have to work some things out.
The main part is to make sure you keep it clear to this friend of yours that you aren't interested in him by not being touchy feely and not flirting. The problem I see is that you don't trust yourself since you are interested in this male friend and you probably have suppressed feelings for him. It's never a good thing if you only see him "as just a friend, on the basis that [you] would never cheat on [your] boyfriend." If you saw him as just a friend, that is one thing but you see him as that because you aren't single which would mean that somewhere along the line, you have some sort of feelings for him. This is fine as long as you don't act on them, and control yourself around him.0