I'm friends with this guy and he likes me - a lot! But I don't feel the same as he does, and I've told him that. I throw out the word friend when I can, just to emphasize the point since we hang out a lot. But I just get this feeling like he's not going to give up easily. I'm a bit uncomfortable around him, since I see him as a big brother. Help! What can I do so he'll stop pursuing me?
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Speaking on behalf of what would work on me... stop acknowledging his moves and attempted advances. Some guys, such as myself, are so positive in our mindset about how women respond to us that we can see EVERYTHING as a sign that a girl likes us. This mindset works wonders when a girl actually likes us but is playing the "hard to get" or "bitchy" game.
Whenever he tries to make an advance, just do you best to either ignore what just happened or treat it as nothing more than a friendly gesture.
For me, this would eventually lead to me growing tired of it and eventually burning out. To him, it might feel like he's making progress pushing a boulder up a steep hill because he perceives your responses as "gaining an extra inch." But... if you stop responding, he'll realize the boulder is going nowhere and he'd be better off doing something else.0