A guy I really do like always says he likes me and I'm stupid for not seeing it but, he rarely makes the time to hangout (once or twice a month... yes we live a few hours from each other and he has a lot of work but still). He makes contact daily but phone convos are short anymore and texts are blah... he always just says he's busy or head hurts or stressed.
When he wasn't texting much in the beginning I sent him a text telling him that I like being texted daily and when he found the time to talk to me and if he became interested in me he had my number and he always contacted me immediately. However these blah texts are not enough.
When we are together it is great and our calls are good when he makes them but he's always in between jo s so they are brief.
What can I text him to tell him that I don't want to get the how are you texts that are followed by one or two texts. Yes I get them daily, but I'm getting attached to someone that isn't giving me the same commitment and while he said to have patience he is not giving me anything to hold on to until then. I rather have him get things in order and than start texting. What can I say that's nice and polite and even playful that tells this.
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You may be being too demanding. It seems you want it exactly your way, and that just isn't going to work in the given situation. You told him you like to be texted daily, so he does when he can and keeps up with how you're doing. Now that's not good enough, now you don't want to be texted at all unless he's ready. What seems to be the case is that you two need time apart. Be open to see other people (or if you're not official, make it clear you want him to only text you when he's ready to really contribute time to a relationship)
Take heed, there is a high chance that this will cause him to forget about you. My dating life can be complicated as well due to working 8 hour shifts every day Mon-Fri, and Going to Night Classes immediately after until 10pm-12am Mon-Thursday. My ONLY free time is weekends and that will remain the case for over a year. Women are not my priority at this moment so I often don't bother looking for a girlfriend. It seems he's in a similar situation where he doesn't really have time for a significant other and this relationship should be postponed before this issue crushes it. Again, it might completely destroy the relationship chance but the current path spells 100% chance of failure unless his situation abruptly changes.
That's the best I can advise given your situation.0
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