So here's the back story. Dated a guy I met online for a month and a half. He did all the pursuing...5 great dates. He's in his mid-30s, educated, homeowner. He was "burned" by his fiance a few years ago, and she has since remarried. He assured me that he didn't have that baggage anymore, though he was re-doing the house that they once shared. While I didn't sleep with him the last time I saw him, we did have a bit of fun in the bedroom. because I knew he was going to be busy with his house, etc., I gave him his space and let him lead the way (since he was the pursuer). A week went by...I sent a hello text. I got great banter right away. The following week, I sent another text, including asking him out to dinner. He responded that he was doing stuff with his Dad the following weekend, but "we'd get out again though!" Then...nothing. For a while, I've been defending himself in my head because I was so convinced he was a )a nice guy and b)knew I was a nice girl that deserved SOME sort of communication (even if negative). GUYS, how do you sleep at night leaving a girl hanging? This wasn't a one night stand...is this normal? I want to move on, but I'm so shocked that I didn't see this coming! BTW: He's not online anymore, which he did tell me would be happening the last time I saw him. Thoughts?
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He could be a bit flaky, or very busy at the moment, but to tell the truth it is a possibility that he's just a jerk who got what he wanted. You can't know which one it is, but surely you'd pick up on it if he just wanted to date, fool around and then give you taxi money and the wrong phone-number?
Time will tell on what actually happened. He may have lost his phone (or your number), you knew he was going off the site anyway, and there are a thousand other reasons he has not been in touch.
As for how guys can sleep at night after dumping a girl for no good reason, I don't know the answer to that but I'm guessing it involves a lot of alcohol or a large sedative.0