He liked me first and he used to ask to hang out all the time, after a few months I started to like him too, I liked him a little at first but no where near as much as he liked me. Now whenever I ask him to hang out he says he's busy and says I just have bad timing, but he never asks me to hang out any more, so how am I supposed to know when he's free? he still like me by the way, it just seems like he doesn't have time for me, should I move on? what should I do?
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Well, there's a mature way to handle this and an immature way. It seems like the mature way may be a bit more difficult at this point since it's advanced to this stage. If he wants to hang out with you, he'll offer up (or at least respond to you asking) WHEN he is free, rather than you just taking stabs in the dark and always coming up empty.
I'm not so sure he is into you again. Actions always speak loudest. If he's not hanging out with you, that means something. I've had girls and female friends who insist every time I talk that we should hang out, will hang out, etc., but it doesn't materialize and I know, despite their protestations, that not only do they not want to hang out, but that they're playing games. He sounds like he's being moody and "getting revenge" now that you like him more, since it used to be the other way around.
You really have no right to be upset now that he's not interested in you. Happens all the time. It's easy to want to see things from our sex's side of the table but as a guy, I've had it happen a million times, too. You can't force people to keep liking you.
If you haven't asked for his schedule, and he's taking your calls, I'd ask him for his schedule the next week or two and say you want to get together. If he doesn't have any free time in the next week or two, it's over. Even if he's going on a trip, he'll make a suggestion for something concrete. Don't accept "I'm busy with ____ now, but when I'm done/when I'm back". If he can't find time in a week, he'll either make a hard suggestion or you know you're done. Just don't be too upset about it; yes, he's playing games with you to an extent, but our culture frowns upon honesty between the sexes, and girls do this to guys as much as the other way around.