I have an outside viewpoint, and objective perspective on relationships. Meaning that I have never had a girlfriend. So I can evaluate the "irrational" behavior caused by affection from the outside without being influenced by the effects of affection. So this is not advice I'm seeking, I'm just interested in what people do. :)
So I have a question for people with real relationships... Do people really plan a date with their significant other, for example to go to a restaurant and a movie, candlelight dinner, walk on the beach, skeet shooting... whatever? I mean, I've literally only seen that happen on TV. I actually haven't seen any evidence during my lifetime that this phenomena called "date" isn't just something invented for movies. Every relationship I have observed starts when 2 people randomly fall in love, and then they just spend as much time together as possible from then on. No fancy dinners in restaurants. They just love each other, plain and simple.
Is the whole "night out" -thing overused in entertainment in proportion to the actual popularity of the phenomena? Or is the culture in the part of the world I live in just that much simpler, that the phenomena is unnecessary? Or does that kind of behavior only start after people turn 25 or something?
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I can personally attest that people go on "dates." To most people, dates are just a safe/formal/semi-formal way of getting to know someone. For example, if I just met someone once, I don't know if I want to be in a relationship with them, nor do we know each other well enough. So a date, like dinner, or a movie, or something else that is fun but structured, is a good way to get to know the other person. Really, after 3 or 4 real dates, you are either now "dating" or in a relationship...or you two aren't compatible and move on. Don't get caught up on the "fancy dinner" super formal stuff. Most people don't have the money to do that. Most are cheap dinners, and fun/free events.Oh, and about the age thing, yeah, after the whole college "slept with them first and see if you like them later" thing is over, you will go on dates. Also, you know YOU could ask a girl out on a date, instead of theorizing if such a thing happens or not. Asking someone out takes some courage, maybe that's why it happens more when you're older.0