If anyone could answer this it would be great. I have plenty of relationship experience so I will try to answer to a question you have.
So anyway my boyfriend of 4-5months is flirting with another girl who know's his bestfriend. (note: he hasn't met her yet, flirting via facebook, email.) He asked if his bestfriend, his bestfriends girlfriend, him, and the girl he is flirting with; to all hang out (like a double date) not mentioning me in the mix. I did talk to him about it and said it upset me however all he says is sorry. I do forgive him however when I asked a couple days later if he would hang out with her at the bar or something without me there he said yes. I can't help but to be upset. What do I do? Should I be upset? Should I be worried he may cheat or do something hurtful to my feelings?
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hm, this is tough only because he has not "officially" cheated yet. I do think you have every right to worry, but he may not realise how this affects you or he may be well aware of it and is trying to hurt you (sometimes guys can be d****). hanging out doesn't always mean a date, but leaving you out of it entirely is troubling. I would have to call him out on it if I were you. don't accuse him of anything, but find out his motives. don't be sneaky or underhanded because if there is nothing going on and he learns that you didn't trust him then the relationship is over anyway. explain to him how it makes you feel and that it seems like he is choosing this other girl over you. when he answers you may have to read between the lines a little bit, but don't put words in his mouth, it will just cause an arguement. and no ultimatums unless you want it to end. many women make the mistake thinking that their man will choose them, but if you give him an ultimatum it makes him feel like you're trapping him and he'll get out of it anyway he can, including leaving you. I'm afraid I don't have any more advice to give on this matter, the best way to handle this is to have a sit down, no distractions talk with him. turn of the phones, computers, tvs or anything else that could interrupt. good luck.1