I've been on and off with this girl. By that I mean we talk, sometimes we dont. Mostly through text.
She has told me numerous times that she misses me and wants to hang out.
Well...Me being the guy, I figured I was the one to set things up for us getting together. Girls like a guy who knows what he wants and what to do, someone who takes initiative, right?
Anyways, I was supposed to meet her for lunch on Tuesday. Well that fell thru, not really a surprise to me. Why you ask? Well there have been previous incidents where she'll tell me she wants to meet up sometime during the week or weekend, well my last idea - going to a theme park with friends didn't work out because she doesn't liek theme parks...ok whatever. Next she tells me she wants to meet up for coffee sometime soon, so again I take the initative and tell her "ok lets meet here and we'll catch up"...that night she didn't respond to my text, all I did was say "are you still on for tonight". According to her she fell asleep and woke up pretty late. PSH whatever...
After her not meeting up with me for lunch this Tuesday, I was pissed about it, more so upset - as I would be with ANY friend. She picked up when I called and said that her friend was on her way over and that she would call me in a hour or so. I had plans later that evening. Well after about 2 hours of not texting I asked if her friend was OK, come to find out, like I said according to her, her friend was pretty upset and crying because she got into a fight with her father. OK whatever, maybe its true, maybe its not. I was pretty upset tho, that I didn't get a call to tell me, or a text, nothing. I had to find out myself. So she asked if I wanted to meet out later for drinks and I asked where? She said Anywhere...Well by this point I was done playing games, I just didn't respond.
Later that night I got a text telling me "im at this bar, come see me!" ... I wasn't in the mood to go out but I wanted her to kjnow I recieve dthe text and wasn't sleeping or anything so I lied and said "thats so weird, I was just there"...she responded quickly and said "come back pleaseeee"...i didn t respond, she then said about 15 min later "come see meeee"...again I didn't respond,. Now you're probably again asking yourself wtf why didn't he respond, theyve been trying to meet up and this was his opportunity. Well here is why, I didn't want to have myself wrapped around her finger, I didn't want to do something just because it was convienant for her. Afterall I had made attempts before and somehow some crap alwasy got int eh way, I felt almost taken advantage of (I guess?).
So what do I do? Do I text her this weekend and attempt another meet up, do I let this weekend go by and wait till next? Do I just say screw it all together? I don't want to continue this spree of trying to set something up and then have sh*t fall through the cracks...I get that she's busy, as I am too. It jsut seems every time it comes down to it, nothing ever happens...
What do I do?
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Forgive me.. but to be honest she is not interested. she is blowing you off by giving excuses because she doesn't want to me mean and hurt your feelings. If she's too "busy" to text or always has a crisis then she's not interested
and the bar.. she was drunk.. having a good time girls like attention when they are out if she wasn't getting it she figured she get a hold of you .. there is only one reason she acts different when she is sober.. she is not interested
I'm going through the same thing with a guy he told me he missed me wanted to see me. and we made plans for the following night and I text him and he never replied and he has not called me since..
It happens toguys and girls but usually if you have to wonder.. then its not going to work out
if you like this girl and you think maybe you haven't been clear enough then be upfront and honest girls like it. be bold but only do so ONCE
Tell her I like you I want to hangout more and get to know you
see how she responds if she's not feeling it or ignores you then move on .. if you ask again you will seem pathetic
I hope this helps :)
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