I was talking about button down shirts one day and how I'd like them to be more form fitting on me (work shirts). He is not my boyfriend but we've been on and off for years upon years.yet he will tell me how we are not a good couple because we don't get along and the odds of us ever getting back together are very slim. yet, .he will tell me how I should wear loser shirts. loser pants to work. "what's wrong with loser shirts and pants, why's it always gotta be tight"? what's the problem.is it a "i don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you" type deal? I just don't get it, and he knows how in love I am with him and how I'd do anything to get him back. please, any advise would help, I'm at a loss!
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What Guys Said 1
Basically, he's saying "i like you but not the total package you. I'm trying to date other people but meanwhile, I like the attention you give me so I play it safe by stringing you along."
I've done it, and had it done to me. The fact that you've been on and off just says that when he gets lonely or you do, the two of you provide the affection that the other desires. Ugly Circle that you guys need to break unless the two of you can work out a F-buddy situation.0
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What Girls Said 1
That last statement is probably the biggest problem. How attracted are you to the guys that are so in love with you they would do absolutely anything? It puts off the vibe that they're desperate, that they need you and they don't have other options. Everyone wants to feel as if they're dating a "catch." He's probably not interested because he knows he could do absolutely anything and you'll still be there! I would back off and try dating other people to see how he responds. This approach obviously isn't working. The girl he falls for will be the girl that wants him but doesn't need him. Oh and p.s. if you like your pants/shirts, don't get looser ones just because he says so! He's no fashion designer. Wear what you want.0
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