Would you date someone if they had noticeable marks of a suicide attempt, like scars on the wrist?
yes or no, why or why not?
- NoVote A
- Doesnt matter to meVote B
- YesVote C
- Depends (please explain)Vote D
Most Helpful Girl
Yes. And self-harm scars aren't necessarily indicative of suicide attempts. I used to cut myself when I was younger, but never once were any of them because I wanted to die. I've never been remotely suicidal. So calling them 'suicide marks' is a bit inaccurate and misleading to people who haven't been there.
For me, the biggest thing I would look for is how fresh the scars are. Like if they're still purple or red, they're relatively fresh. If they're white, they're old, and I see no issue. All of mine are white. Fresh scars would lead me to believe that the person isn't very emotionally stable. As an 'emotional hemophiliac' and previous cutter myself, I can relate and understand, but I don't think a relationship with someone who deals with their emotions in such a way would healthy for me. I used to do it, but I moved past it and learned different ways to cope. So to be with someone who still cuts themselves would be like regressing to me. I'm also rather impulsive, so that kind of influence wouldn't be good for me. Being with a person who still currently cuts and is liable to relapse and do it again anytime things get tough, it's likely that in my OWN fit of emotional rage, I might impulsively try to do the same because that's a trigger. I'd rather just avoid the situation altogether. But like I said, someone who used to do it and is over it, I would have no problem with. My boyfriend has plenty of self-harm scars of various sorts, but none of them are fresh.1