My 18 year old daughter broke up with her boyfriend mid Oct. She's been hanging out with a guy friend a lot lately and he's always had a crush on her. So after this break up he tells her he is in love with her and she told him she can't be with anyone for a while. Then I find out about a conversation they had after last weekend. He said some stuff like "thanks for letting me do that to you last night." It sounds like he performed oral sex on her because he said he liked doing it to her and it wasn't like with his previous girlfriend. He said he didn't like doing it to her because it tasted weird and he wanted to puke. Then my daughter said it was nice. She didn't elaborate, but there was a comment back to him like - just wait until you experience my head giving abilities. I want to fricken throw up! So is she just having him as a friend with benefits? This guy is a loser, I've never liked him but they've known each other for 4 years. I know her self esteem must be low because of her ex cheating on her, but this is rediculous. (don't yell at me as to how I found this conversation, our computer is a family computer) As far as I know she's only had sex with her first boyfreind that she dated for almost 3 years and the most recent ex.
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I think the best thing to do is to discuss your feelings with your daughter. As hard as it is to accept that our children are sexually active - it is a reality. Don't be overbearing and judgemental, she is an adult - make sure she is taking the proper precautions with her body as well as her heart.
As for why - maybe after being in two relationships that didn't go well, she is just wants to take a break from the obligations of having a boyfriend. Though I don't think it's right that she could be using her friends feelings toward her to get what she wants - but you never know, he might be the prince charming she has always been looking for.
Talk to her, talk to her as one adult to another. She is your daughter and you love her. If you're concerned about her activities, let her know. Hopefully she would be able to share them with you no matter how uncomfortable the conversation might be.0