Hello! So, as you can probably tell from my question, I'm going to college soon, I'm 18, and I've never kissed a girl or had sex. I've been told by girls before that I'm cute, and I can tell I've had them flirting with me, but I think I'm just so detached from the entire process of dating and flirting that I don't move forward with the girls, or I don't recognize the true signs of when they're interested in me. I mean, God forbid I'm actually as ugly as I think I am sometimes, but I feel like I'm a bit of a loser for not being able to get anything 'done' so to speak. My friends tell me all the time that girls seem to fall over me, but I don't notice it at all. I used to be a bit heavier until I was 15, when I started actually working out, but now I feel like my mind is warped from those days - I still feel insecure, and each day that I don't find someone it gets worse. Any help for how to proceed, or what to do? Thanks!
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Nah, I don't think it's weird at all, seeing as how I am pretty much in the same situation as you except that I'm a girl. I mean in high school I never actually realized how 'behind' I was compared to my friends and other classmates. I used to make a big deal out of how I never experienced any of that, but nowadays I just tell myself that when the time comes for me to meet the right person, it will happen. For the past few years, it seemed like I was always on the hunt to find a guy but it came to a point where I just stopped because it should just come at you naturally. I felt like I was forcing myself to try and find a boyfriend because I haven't experienced anything in the romance department. Sorry for rambling, but here's my advice:
Since you said that girls are flirting with you, you should try to be more aware of what they are doing so you can reciprocate it. Also, if you see a girl that you have some interest in, just try getting her attention or flirt with her, ya know, something along those lines. The worst that can happen then is that they reject you, but you just move on to the next one. Hope this helps!1