We used to hang out by ourselves all the time, like three or four times a week. If she was in town and killing time, she'd ask if she could come over to my house. At the same time, we texted each other or called one another on the phone like every night
I've liked her pretty much since I met her and I thought since we were getting so close that I might as well ask her out on a date. I texted her one night to start a convo to ask but didn't get a reply until the next morning, when she said she went on a date the night before. I asked her on one, since like a lot of people go on just dates, but she apparently meant she was dating the guy and she got really mad at me and we didn't talk for months until they split up
When they split up, we started talking again (like in February), and we've been talking since.
When they split up, we started talking again (like in February), and we've been talking since. I asked her to hang out one time and she said yeah and that she had this friend of hers that she wanted me to meet. I said OK and I thought she was hooking me up, but we all went on a picnic together (her suggestion), and it turns out her friend has a boyfriend so I thought she just wanted her to come along.
About a month or so ago, I asked to hang out and she said yeah and said she may ask her friend. I asked about what if her friend had plans and she said that she honestly doesn't feel comfortable hanging out alone cause of what happened between us. She also said that hanging out in groups is more fun (which I could see) and that she was sort of stressed at me constantly asking to hang out. We talked about it and ike I spilled my feelings out (used past tense so she wouldn't get mad) and basically said I understood why she would be uncomfortable and that I just couldn't help my feelings back then.
That passed over and we've recently gotten to the point where we talk and text more than we did back when we were close and we're actually going to be hanging out by ourselves in a few days
Anyway, we talked on the phone yesterday and she said that like she felt bad about how she was last year, cause she realized she was sort of leading me on and that I was just being a little too pushy
Is it possible for me to ever get with her? We're gonna start hanging out again and she hasn't seen me in months so you think that may change her mind? Or what I said about my feelings (like how she was really important to me and that she meant a lot to me, that I really cared about her, that just being around her made me happy, that I just wanted her to be happy)?
I mean, she said that her ex (that she got with when this drama started) was weird and taht I'm definitely cooler than him. That and us hanging out again is a start, but do you think we may ever be more than friends?
Is there ANYTHING I could do to sort of help that? I mean, I still like her. I think about her all the time, I'm pretty sure I'm in love with her, and I just wish she'd give me a chance...
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If she has said to you that you're being too pushy, my advice would be back off. Not completely. Still talk to her. But try and see if you can get her to come to you a little more... for instance if it's you who texts in the morning saying "Good morning, how are you today?!" just leave it and see how long it takes her to do it... if she hasn't texted back after say, 4-5 days, you can text first :) That time away will mean she will either think about you, or she will be like "oh! I haven't heard from him in a bit! Sweet!" (Also if she's busy, she may appreciate the space)
If you are getting on well and still hanging out alone that's good. It sounds so far like she just likes you as a friend, and if you speak to her about your feelings at the moment I think she will just get scared again.
Have you ever bought her a little present? I don't mean like a birthday present, something more like "i saw this and thought of you" eg. a £1 keyring with her name on, or a tiny little teddy or something. Something small that doesn't cost a fortune and hopefully you can come up with a mini story behind it.
I know it's not the best advice, but it's the best I can think of.. best of luck x0
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