Alright so here's the thing, majority of girls probably 90% of girls in my HS go after my best friend named Doug. he might be cute I guess but like he's my best friend and all and he has to be the biggest asshole to every girl he talks to. From 9th graders to seniors he just plain out lets you know if your not good looking, he will even embarase you right on the spot. Girls in 9th grade tend to go up to him and go hey my name is ____ remember me alright Doug! and I just stand there like wtf. He has cheated on all his girl friends, he tells girls straight up that they are too ugly for him and I treats them like their his bitch sometimes from making them hold his bag or hold his trash.
Like why would they all flock towards him while on the other hand I help out everyone who asks for help, I never cheated on a girl and I don't use others.
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You know, the same question can be asked about high school boys. (Most of them anyways.) It's the pretty, skinny, ditzy, and generally 'bitchy' girls who get tend to get all of the male attention. Meanwhile, the girls who don’t fit into this category seem to be ignored. Nearly all of the guys my age are looking to land the 'sexiest' girl they can, regardless of their personality and other important, non-superficial qualities. I have gorgeous friends who would never hesitate to rudely reject guys or ‘talk shit’ behind anyone’s back. These are the same girls that the guys swoon over. So this is definitely a gender-mutual circumstance.
I absolutely feel your pain and share your confusion. So why is it like this? As I'm sure many other people who have responded to this question have mentioned, it's more than likely a matter of immaturity and naivety. I think it’s as simple as that. And it’s quite unfortunate that it is like this because it leaves people to question whether or not they are desirable to the opposite gender. I believe it’s safe to conclude that high school can’t be treated as a measure of how you’ll be received by people in life beyond high school.
One thing I don’t really understand either is while girls gravitate towards the assholes (like the friend you mentioned) and why guys go for bitches. The only somewhat logical explanation I can deduce is that they desire a reaction/attention from the opposite gender, whether it is negative or positive. But overall, I think it’s just sheer childish stupidity that they would want to go after someone like that haha.
Personally, I cling to the hope that there are boys out there who have more to offer than looks. Hopefully these same guys are interested in finding the same thing. I usually go for the best friend of the assholes, because they’re usually the keepers. If only more people could realize that…