There's way too many articles online to shuffle through but one thing is clear to me, many more people are accepting of a skinny girl dating a bigger guy than an attractive man dating a big girl.
I'm not saying big as in mammothly huge, I'm saying going by BMI, you're 20% over.
Most of my previous girlfriends were at or slightly below these BMI lines and no I did not date them for their narrow wasteline, in fact some of them had an hour glass shape and a relative bigger rear end, but to the point, I date for personality.
I don't care what other people think but like every human I am affected by what other people say.
Going on 9 months and the words become louder and louder, family and friends are supportive but with an underlining message of " why are you dating a bigger girl "?
I'm sporty and she has made strides, she's lost 15lbs in 2 months, which is good and I'm proud of her. But for several people it's still not enough.
Why the hell is it so important for people to have partners that look good in public? WHY?
I don't need a trophy wife to brag to everyone, I am extreme, some say to the point of arrogant, in terms of confidence. I also do a lot of volunteer work and have undying principles about social values.
When it comes to my romantic life, I need a person I can talk to, be comfortable around and one who will not annoy me or try to bicker.
I've never had one fight/argument with this girl and we may seem like two giggling idiots to outsiders but our harmony is stronger than most, and I say that with experience not blind patrionage for myself.
But the question remains, why can't an attractive man date a bigger girl if she's more beautiful inside than a high majority of dolls people see in magazines and drool over in public?
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It's "important for people to have partners that look good in public" because...not many people want to look at fat ugly people. Sad fact, but when was the last time you heard anyone say "hey let's got out and find some fat ugly people."
If you want to get everyone off your back, simply turn the topic back on them. For example, next time one of your buds asks you why you're dating a bigger girl, just respond by saying "well at least I'm not dating a SLUT!" or something along those lines. And say it a little under your breath, like you didn't really mean to say it out loud, followed by "I'm sorry I didn't mean to say that." Even if their wife/girlfriend is Princess Stepford you'll get them wondering long enough to stop harassing you and start worrying about their own lives.3