So I've met this guy, and we're going on our first date next week. I think he's really cute, sort of geeky in a totally sweet way, and I really want this to work out, but there is one problem.. The first time we met he was sort of shy and at times when we ran out of things to talk about there was this awkward silence. I don't want that to happen again. Therefore, I need topics! And lots of them!
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I had the same issue when it came to this. Problem was I'd be so worried about what I'm going to talk about next I really wasn't following the conversation which in turn made what could have been a conversation into a series of questions and statements. One thing I realized which helped immensely was that the conversation is between TWO people, no person is directly responsible for the silence. What I'm trying to get at here is that when (Its no "if" its bound to happen) one of these silence occurs instead of you yourself worrying about what the next topic of discussion is let him think of something. Because as shy as he is, it doesn't mean his lips are permanently sealed and his brain shut off.
The reason I didn't list topics of discussion is that I believe there is no such things as running out of topics, it is the worrying itself that's mentally short changing you, cutting off your immense knowledge and creativity. The worrying itself is paralyzing, if you spend the rest of your time leading up to seeing him again writing lists of discussion topics, your gonna sit down in front of him and be back at square one with the paralyzing sense of worry. A good analogy I guess you could say is studying like crazy for a test and then going blank when you sit down.
So I guess my advice would be whenever this situation occurs, just relax, and remind yourself that a conversation is a two way street. Because the last thing you want, especially with a shy guy is that if you start looking nervous or ancy he's gonna think that he makes you uncomfortable, and that may not register as a good thing. So just do your best to be relaxed even if your screaming on the inside. Because sometimes silence says more then chatting your brains out ever could.
Oh! If your gung-ho set on making a list of things to talk about, find out one of his geeky interests, do alittle research, and surprise him with your knowledge. He will sh*t, hopefully not literally, good luck!2