I have entered a dangerous phase in my life where I'm bittered towards women. I still find them sexually attractive, but there are times when I hate them. I use to classify myself as a nice guy. My mom raised me believing that if I was a nice guy then women would love me. So being a nice guy was my strategy for getting women. That strategy failed. While women did talk to me and considered me their friend, they always told me I wasn't their type. I soon became bittered towards women because I saw them giving other men opportunities except for me. I really don't want to be bitter because that will prevent me from ever getting a girlfriend and I don't want to be alone forever. What should I do?
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Stop being a nice guy. Start being a man.
Women are _not_ attracted to yes-men without any backbone. You don't need to be a jerk, but right now you're a manipulative little liar. You admitted it! I bet you _are_ a nice guy, but you try to be EXTRA nice hoping that girls will like you. What your mom (and tons of other women) tell you is WRONG. They would like it if a guy they ALREADY found attractive was super nice and fell head over heels for them, but in general, a super sweet guy who is desperate for them is a turn OFF. Women like men who are independent, strong, self-reliant and not easily controlled. That man is there inside of you, but you're used to trying to be sweet, pleasant, asexual and inoffensive. Women do NOT want to have sex with a guy who seems like their servant.
As long as you dwell in this fake reality that being nice is supposed to earn love, you'll be bitter that its not working. You need to actually be much more the REAL you and not worry about trying to please women. Somewhat surprisingly (for you), that's what they actually want in a man.1