Planning first date with out of town guy met online after emails and telephone calls. He suggests city #3 no closer to him than mine, while I'm concerned about being local to my home on first date with online guy. Here's our exchange. Any advice on how to respond would be appreciated. Thanks!
ME: Yes, I've been to City#3 and I think it is wonderful. How about you - have you been there? I've always thought of it as (My City’s) big sister of sorts. After my most recent e-mail about the beach, it did cross my mind that the beach near my city would be nice. At sunset, perhaps? Perhaps there may be some moonlight to follow? I love the way moonlight dances on the water. What are your thoughts? Also, I don't know what your schedule is like. Are you thinking sooner or later?
THE GUY: It would be better to meet you sooner than later :) I was going to invite you to visit city #3 with me. Sounds like you have another plan. Tell me what you have in mind.
- Explain first date concernVote A
- Stick with suggestion local to meVote B
- OtherVote C
- Tell him whatever he wants is okVote D
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I personally feel if the city is say, half way for both of you then I don't see a problem. It shows a willingness to compromise right from the start. If either was demanding somewhere in their town for the first date I'd probably not wanna bother myself cause then it seems like "well why do I have to drive all the way out to see you when I'm in the same boat? That it's far and we've only been communicating online and such"
I dunno... I'd say just talk with him about it and your concerns, but realize you really can't suggest somewhere local without coming off as possibly selfish or not willing to compromise with him.0