We met online a few weeks ago; it has been great, until this week. We had a date Friday night, we have spoken and texted and mostly it's me initiating the contact.
I asked about his position on us dating others, because I was asked out by another potential match and I wanted to get a feel for his stance on dating others, and also to keep it on the table that I would consider other men because we are still so new.
He said things like "we are heading down that path" and " I hate to say it, but until we are a committed stance, I think that you keep your options open, for as much as I like you, there is no guarantee as of today, but you had better hurry, because I can't say it'll be like that for long, especially as we spend more and more time together." but it's midweek and he hasn't brought up plans or asked, and I know he has been online, because it allows you to see when your matches are on or if they have been active.
I know it’s odd, I’m considering going on a date with someone else, but it’s mainly not to get vested in only him and then have my feelings really hurt, as well as to see if there are other potentials out there. I think that I have been honest enough in letting him know. I just can’t help but wonder if he is feeding me lines to keep me around or is he being honest
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You told him that you are dating other guys? If you did tell him, then I don't see what the problem is. As long as you tell him that you are dating other people, I don't see the problem. I think your reason for dating other people is bad, though. You want to date other people so you don't get too emotionally invested? How do you expect to have a real relationship without being emotionally invested? That's the risk you take when you date someone. Without vulnerability, you can't have real love. Real love only comes with risk. And he can't get attached to you unless you show vulnerability so by not opening yourself up to him, you are prematurely ending the relationship anyway.0
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