I've liked this girl for 2 years now and everyone knows it including her.she's very shy both physically and verbally and so we text message each other most of the time instead of talking face to face.and we message like everyday.she's too shy to be caught hanging out with me in public.
I've always been there for her.when she's sick,when she's got friendship problems and everything but still she's never started a conversation with me in all the 2 years.that's how shy she is.
then she started liking me as well and she's never said it but she told her friend who told me.
we started hanging out more often and talking face to face but that only 2 weeks.after that every time I tried to ask her if she wanted to meet she'd come up with an excuse or say she's busy.
and when I read my friends' blogs I see that they've been hanging out with that girl and she's done so many nice things for them for the birthdays,go out with them,etc.but if I ask her to go out,we never go out.she treasures her friends way more than me.she's spent so much time with and for her friends but all she's ever given me for the whole time we known each other were 3 letters and text messages.that's all I have of her.
and I really don't understand why she treats me like this.it always happens and when I try to talk to her about her neglecting me she says she'll change and treat me better but it always ends up that she's always spending time with them and I have to wait more than a month to get to meet her for less than 10 mins.
like if I try to talk to her about how she feels and all she's too shy to say anything and she also won't really tell even her closest friends.and she'll say she doesn't want anyone to know bout how she feels about me so she doesn't want to be seen with me.
i miss her so much and I don't know what to do. and now another girl likes me and my friends all say I should give up on the girl I like and go for the second girl.but I really don't want to.
what should I do?
I've tried telling her about how hurt I am and have been - she treats me better for a few days.
I've tried not talking to her for a few days - she cried and said she was so sorry and asked me what's wrong.after that nothing much changed.
I've tried asking her friends what should I do - they just said I should continue messaging her.
i just wish she would understand and care for me the same way I do for her. what should I do now?
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I don't think she's into you. I am shy but if I like a guy I will definitely want to spend time with him and wanting to give him more than just 3 letters and texts. I don't mean sex but more like show that I care about him and buy him gifts during birrthdays. Why dwell on something you know you can't get? Unless you want this cycle to continue, give up this shy girl. If she does like you, she will show some effort at least. Don't fall for her crying thing. don't be her emotional support because it will just tiring you out. It's all up to you but if I were you, I will try to get to know that other girl. Goodluck! and btw Merry Christmas =)0