so I'm dating this guy. I just turned 17, he's 25. I really really really like him, I honestly do. And I think the guy likes me as well.
And I'm almost sure he isn't a bad guy. He didn't abuse me or something and he doesn't use me for bad things. He only kissed me, and he's a real gentleman, paying everything for me, holding the umbrella when it rains, bringing me home whenever we see each other, telling me he wants me to stay the night over at his house (and no, he just wanted to sleep. He doesn't want to do those things until I'm ready he says) I think he enjoys being with me.
But, are there bad things about an 8 year age gap? I know I'm still underaged, but it doesn't matter if it's me who likes him too right? Or is it?
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Personally age is just a number. I'm 29 and in sum weird thing with an 18 year old. We started off as mates and seem to just be getting closer and closer. It's all happened unintentionally and the age thing only comes up when we fight or oddly, I get asked for ID (I look only 20). I generally date females within 4 years of me so what I'm doing at the moment sort of is out of the norm.
The fact you guys shouldn't be doing anything till you are 18 means you have time to find out if his intentions are honorable. In all honesty, if he was over 30 then I'd be real cautious.
I have and know a lot of people in relationships that there is a 10+ years age gap. One in particular with a 20 year gap, they met when she was 18 and him 38. It works for some people. Sometimes though, the younger person gets played, there's usually a reason an older male deliberately goes for younger females, he can't get anyone his own age as they have sussed him out.
Just remember that not all males intentions are legitimate with younger females.1