First off, I'm 26, been working on the rigs since I graduated high school. I don't know what was wrong with me. I thought money would buy happiness, but obviously not. I make 6 figures easy and money is no objective to me, but I just recently realized how lonely my life is. I've never had a gf, and where I work there ARE no girls. It's a guys field. So I quit my job to go back to college hoping I could find the right girl. I mean, I have a nice house, a nice car, but I try to be average joe at school pretending I don't have anything at all. I finished my first semester, and I've gotten comments from 4 girls that I'm like the popular guy in school. I try to make an effort to get to know EVERYONE since I've wasted the past 8 years of my life. I tried asking these 4 girls out for lunch/movie/coffee, they all gimme their numbers, but when I ask them out, they ALWAYS make some random excuse like "what about after exams", or "I'm pretty busy right now, can we try in the new year?" And some of them don't even reply back to my calls?! I mean, what's the deal? Am I doing something wrong? Does it make me look bad that I know everyone? I always thought that would be a good thing to know everyone. To be honest, I'm getting pretty desperate to settle down, it seems as every year I have this feeling of emptiness in my life, and this is gonna be another year. Girls, what can I do to even get a DATE with you?! You girls are soooo confusing!
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Today going to college is still considered a big deal to women. Not in the sense of "Yay women's rights", but more "I am better able to take care of myself." Women, like men, go to college to increase their mental faculties, learn how to take care of themselves in the real world, and be more responsible. My griends of the female persuasion today view responsibility as NOT settling until later in life - they want their degrees, they want to date around and meet every kind of guy so they know, they want to have a job, their college paid off, and a stable living situation before they think of marriage or kids and the like.
So although a guy saying " I want to settle down," fits into what we want our long term guy to be, it doesn't fit what most women want their guy to be IN COLLEGE. They don't want to think about adding to that huge pile of debt, or being tied down and reliant on a guy. They don't want to make a mistake and have kids during school. The risk of being tied down in college is so much more blinking lights to a lot of women in college. In the end we are being silly - we want to feel that EVERY guy we date COULD be the one in the FUTURE when everything else is settled, but we don't want to think about it now.