So the first date went really well.
Last Friday, I first took her to a coffee shop she suggested, then we went swing dancing, and I surprised her with my skill since I practiced it for couple of months. then we finalized our first "hanging out" at a local gelato shop and we talked a lot. Then I took her to her car and before we depart, we had a light kiss.
second date, I took her to volleyball game. though I had initial difficulty doing PDA, but we kissed couple of times and after we left the game we made out. then we made out again in the car. Then we went to this sushi place and I was very full, so we ordered 8 rolls and I had one and she had 7 rolls. (There weren't many.) we kissed couple of times here too.
So far, everything went okay. but here comes the messy part... :(
then we got out and took a walk. We stopped at this place, which wasn't very good. and she was like "this place isn't romantic." but I kissed her regardless and we made out again. then I kissed her neck. then she stopped me and said "we should take things slow."
Then she kept distance from me and crossed her arms on her back and we chatted. Then I took her back to her car and we kissed and talked about figuring out our upcoming schedule to plan our third meeting.
So do you think I messed up big time? After writing this, I am feeling better and am worrying less.
But Should I bring it up and tell her that "hey..did we move too fast last week? If we did I am sorry. I really want to go at a pace you are comfortable with" ?
Most Helpful Guy
You definitely made some mistakes. Here are my thoughts:
1) The single kiss after the first date is what you should have done for the second date as well. Making out multiple times, kissing her a bunch of times until she tells you to back off... it's only the second date; you need to pace yourself. You don't want to make her feel "smothered."
2) Her comments like "This place isn't romantic" and "We should take things slow" are not good signs. You want her coming to you, asking you for more affection, not telling you to back off.
3) In my experience, it's never a good idea to plan the next date while you're on a date. You want her to spend at least a few days wondering if you'll ask her out again.
4) I wouldn't chat with her about moving at her pace. It's probably better to just take it slower if you two end up going on more dates.0
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