i'll make it short. I broke up with my boyfriend, it's a mutual thing. he is a good man, but he is kind of player. I understand because I didn't want to do "that" and people have some kind of biological urges.
it's been a month and my friend told me that maybe I should start dating someone else but, I don't feel like it.
i have this class and this lecturer, he's like 29 and engaged. I found him adorable and very very smart. I didn't expect he'd ask me out but he did. since then, we often had coffee or walk in the park. the point is he's so my type and he never asked me to do what I don't wanted to.
later, my ex text me and said that he missed me and wanted us back. I said I'd think about that and if I figured out, I'd tell him.
i told my lecturer that I'd like to go for my ex because even if everything went right, it would not be working for us.
the next day, my lecturer said that he settled his engagement for me. I feel bad about it.
so, what do you think about it? who should I go for?
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Wow, that's a tough scenario.
But in my opinion, an Ex who is a player versus a lecturer who cut off his engagement for you...
its like picking the lesser of two evils. Imo, I know if I ever cut it off with someone I was engaged to for someone else...that would just feel so wrong on an ethical level. Why would I even be engaged in the first place?
If he was single in the first place, that would be a whole different story, but that one fact alone is a HUGE reveal of a person's character.
Its up to you to either follow your emotions, or not, and keep moving forward finding someone new.
Dating lecturer's never end well, and rarely does getting back with an ex ever end well either.
You should move on from both, imo.