I'm 16 and never been kissed. I feel so ashamed. I'm a pretty girl and I have guys hit on me, but I'm very picky. Often the guys I like end up being jerks or like someone else and the guys who like me I just want to be friends with. I don't go to a lot of parties like a lot of my friends because I'm very focused on school, activities, sports and my job. I feel like such a loser because in my group of friends everyone has a boyfriend except me, I'm the only virgin and never been kissed. ughh. I mean I could just hook up with someone at a party but I'm very traditional and classy and I don't want it to be that way. My BFF lost her virginity at a party when she was drunk, I don't want to be like that at all. But still, I feel so unormal. I mean, high school sophomore and never been kissed, is that normal?
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Actually, your girlfriends that are hooking up and having sex are the unormal ones. I'm sixteen too, sophmore, although I've been kissed, but I'm a virgin as well. And when I say kissed, I mean pecked. I've never made out with anyone. Yeah, It makes me feel strange and left out when my friends talk about all the guys they've hooked up with and stuff. But I have friends that are still virgins too, although a handful are not. Actually, some had lost their virginity back in eighth grade! Ridiculous, and disgusting, I know. But thinking about that makes me realize that I am the normal one. I have morals and self respect. My friends that are hooking up and having sex do not. They have this urge to fit in and do "what everyone else is doing." And with the whole 'right guy', I understand. I have the same problem, I'm way too picky. But I've realized that I can't just sit around for Mr. Right to come ringing my doorbell. I have to get out there and find him.
For you, don't change who you are to fit in with your friends. Stick to your morals and if anyone is ever trying to pressure you into doing things your not comforable with, then maybe their not your friend. Stay true to yourself. And get out here and find a guy. No guy is going to be 100% perfect, so keep your expectations reasonable. Find guys that are focused on school, activities, and sports like you are. Or go to a party with your friends and pick out the guy who has morals like you. Don't give up, ever.
Good luck gffff <332