For guys and girls:
Have you dated a childhood sexual abuse survivor?
When did they tell you about the abuse?
Did their abuse baggage affect your relationship?
Any other thoughts about relationships with abuse survivors would be appreciated.
Most Helpful Girl
Well, I can help you in a different way. My fiance is engaged to a childhood abuse survivor. I haven't told him everything that has happened to me and we have been going out for 2+years, and best friends for longer. Some things I don't want to tell him because I'm still trying to get over it. I first started telling him when we were talking about having sex. Before him every guy I dated just used me for sex...that's what I was I thought love was because of the abuse when I was young. When my fiance started talking about wanting to be more intimate is when I told him some of what happened. He took it like any guy would, he wanted to kill the bastard. It hasn't really effected us at all. I'm luck, he is really understanding and willing to take things slow. And I am glad to say that thanks to his support and care that I can know what real love is... Hope that helped1