Here's what I mean by dating rules:
The guy asks the girl out, chooses where to go, goes to her house and picks her up and takes her to the place then all this chivalry stuff then he has to pay for everything (that's really unfair to the guy...) then takes her home and well you get what I mean
I don't like dating rules not only are they too complicated but they have all these stupid gender roles and stereotypes
The rules say a girl can't ask a guy out - that's not good for anyone because it restricts the girl and puts pressure on the guy - actually where I live girls ask guys out all the time lol, but its different depending on where you live
The picking up thing, again its complicated and has gender roles, there are no "rules" on how you meet with a friend, so why a date?
The guy has to do all this holding doors open and stuff - its unfair to the guy and makes the girl feel weak
Then the guy has to pay for it all, that's what I find the most unfair of all, the one who asked should pay or it should be split but expecting the guy to pay just because he's the guy... is just wrong!
If a guy always paid for me... I would feel REALLY uncomfortable, I don't find a relationship where the guy does anything romantic at all, I like doing things for him, and it would be incredibly selfish of me to expect him to do everything! The thought of guys always having to pay makes me feel horrible inside to be honest
Thing is, so many guys let girls get away with that... they don't show any self-respect or believe the one-sided "it shows you care" stuff
And finally the going home... again complicated
Long story short, I don't like normal dating because its complicated and sexist, I prefer just to hang out - its like going out with a friend, I invite him out or he invites me, we decide where to go together, we go there and each pay for our own stuff, just like people who are just friends would
When it comes to paying, getting to the venue, and all that - we consider ourselves people, and so far I don't often get into arguments or anything, so its worked out great!
What do you think of the dating rules?
- I hate them!15% (6)43% (10)25% (16)Vote
- I dislike them5% (2)13% (3)8% (5)Vote
- I dislike them but would still follow them10% (4)0% (0)6% (4)Vote
- I think some are fine, others not50% (20)39% (9)46% (29)Vote
- Nothing wrong with dating rules, people should do them whether they want to or not20% (8)5% (1)15% (9)Vote