How important is a first date?

Do you think a bad first date is a very bad sign? Or could you blow it off as nerves or just some expected awkwardness and it's not a big deal.

Or do you not put any pressure on a first date and almost always follow-up with a second date to make sure the first wasn't a fluke (in one way or another- that it went really, great chemistry, etc. well or really bad, nothing to talk about, no kiss/hug)?

Just curious. ^_^


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Not terribly, truth be told. If I'm going to bother asking a girl on a date at all it's going to be because I'm into her. First date won't change that unless she's a total disaster. So it's mostly about me establishing enough attraction with her that she wants a second date.

    I think since guys are usually the ones doing the asking, you can be pretty sure that if you've been asked on a first date you will get passed on to the second date. If it's a set up then it's not as clear. So the evaluative part of the date is mostly done by girls.

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What Guys Said 5

  • It depends on what you mean by "bad". A first date, in my opinion, is for getting comfortable around and learning about the other person (that is if you just recently met), so I wouldn't be under a terrible amount of pressure.

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  • If the first date is bad, then why the possible other dates could be any better?

    You don't know each other - so much to talk about yourselves!

    And it's a fresh chemistry!

    Some nervousness is totally acceptable though.

    And if that doesn't make it work, then it's doomed to fail!

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  • I'd say the second date is more important. Deciding on someone with only a first date is too fast unless there is something blatantly obvious that makes you not like them of course.

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  • ive never dated but if girls put THAT much pressure on the first date then I'm screwed

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  • Haha Both.

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What Girls Said 1

  • the one date I've been on was only one date because I didn't enjoy myself at all, didn't laugh, felt like I was being babysat ect. I also thought he was falling and I didn't want to waste anymore of his time or money.

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