i know I could never... but I'm womdering how people cam.
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well you asked whether I would. And I can't give a yes or no answer right now because when children are involved it's not just a matter of "Do I want to be with someone who has children ?" but mainly a matter "Can I handle being with someone who already has a child?"
Children come with great responsability, no just financial, but tons of other one and especially the responsability of being an important adult in this child's life. And the situation is always quite difficult: does the kid till see his other biological parent ? What about the previous relationship between your now spouse and the mother/father of the kid ? It can be a source of drama when the adults involved are not mature enough to handle it wisely.
Now if I was in love with a guy who had a kid, I can't deny that I would be wary at first and would like to know the story of why and how, but if our relatonship was great, if there was chemistry, I wouldn't hesitate to date him. I mean, I don't see kids as a definite "no run for your life !" situation in a guy. And if our relationship was great enough so that we would consider marrying, I wouldn't hesitate neither, and would treat his kids just like mine. Partly because I would love him but also because children are children, and it doesn't matter whose they are, they need to be cared for.1