I was raped, my boyfriend told me he cares, but still won't talk to me.
There was this guy that I had a 'thing' with last March and I'm still friends with him so I see him everywhere. I'm pretty sure he still has feelings for me and last time we saw each other he told me to call him...which hasn't happened since things ended between us.
I keep thinking about him and he's one of the few people that I let hug me. I'm starting to think I might be crushing on him...but do you think it's just because of my boyfriend neglecting me?
I really don't want to lead this guy on...again.
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Yeah it is an extremely hard situation. How long have you been with your boyfriend? A lot of people, and especially guys (typically) have a hard time dealing with emotion and expressing it. You may feel neglected, and in fact, are being neglected. However, it may be that he does not know how to react to what happened to you because he is feeling overwhelmed. I have personal experience in this (why I am posting anonymously). My girlfriend told me she was raped when we bumped into the guy who did it. It had happened to her 6 years before she told me. We had only been together a month or so, and I didn't know how to react. normally, I am very comforting, caring and empathetic. I do anything and everything for her. though, when she told me that, I had no idea what I should do. She was offended by it, and I told her I was sorry. and really was.. I even brought it up a month later and told her, "that was one time I really should have provided you some comfort, and will always regret not responding appropriately". Anyways, bring it up, and see what he says.1