I'm 19 years old soon to be 20 and I still never had a boyfriend.
It wasn't because I never wanted one ... I had many chances but somehow I just never let them evolve into anything bigger. I was raised in a very traditional family where sex was always an unthinkable and a forbidden subject. As I grew up everyone would tell me how I would embarrass and shame my family if it was with a guy I wouldn't marry. So mostly, whilst living with my family I was always scared of them... now I moved out, started college. However after a visit to a doctor a few years ago, who warned me that my "first time will be very painful and I have to ask my partner to be gentle" I was always scared and just tried to put this off.
Now I'm soon to be 20 years old, and I can't even admit to my guy friends that I'm a virgin, because they'd think I'm kidding... everyone seems to think I'm not by the way I either act or look...:/ So I now have a fear of dating guys too... how do you explain to a guy you are still a virgin by 20 :/ that's so embarrassing ... what if they think somethings wrong with me?
Guys what do you think? Any advice?
Most Helpful Girl
Just don't make it into a big deal. I'm 19 and a virgin, and I'm quite proud of it. I tell myself that the guy is going to have to accept that about me if we're ever gonna be together. So when the topic is ever brought up, I just say "I'm a virgin," plain and simple. Most guys aren't surprised, since they know me to be a "good girl" type. But sometimes they say "why?" and I just tell them the truth. I'm waiting till I'm married. I keep the conversation casual and act like it's no big deal, and usually they do the same.1