I never thought I would find myself chasing a guy, but this is how it is. I have been on many dates with him and we have spent the night together a number of times and still I find it hard to have to be the one to start the conversations through text all the time and wait for him to reply.
Reasons why I allow this to go on are because he is worth the effort and when we are together we are very happy and peaceful. He is a lot like me in many ways and I really enjoy his company.
So is it normal for me to be the one to have to chase him down constantly? Is there anything I can do to show him that it's okay to randomly ask how my week is going or tell me what's happening?
Sorry I'm both working and reading replies, now I can really read this right. So if I tell him "I want attention from you, so come over and give me a kiss" he will take this better than my beating around the bush? and he won't think I am crazy?
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People with Asperger Syndrome tend to have one track minds. When they take an interest in something, they make it into an obsession and it becomes the sole focus of their lives. They live, eat, breathe, and sleep it. But it doesn't stick. In the beginning you were probably the object of his "obsession." This is normal. Now you're not. This is also normal. It doesn't mean he cares less. You're just no longer the focus of his obsession. It could be something like doing puzzles right now. Or putting together model kits. I'm sure he does care for you.
Also bear in mind he has absolutely no clue how to act when it comes to dealing with you because a lot of the instincts you have telling you how to react in these situations he is totally devoid of. He's probably going to have to be led by the hand in every step for quite some time because he has absolutely no clue how to behave, what to do, what is acceptable, etc. And it may be even possible he has no clue how to do things like kiss or be physically intimate.
In other words, you're dating a guy who may be a total blank slate that you need to customize to you and "teach" before he can take any form of initiative himself.
At least this is how I am.. I'm 31 and have Asperger Syndrome.0
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