Ok I have been gating out talking to more women mostly at the store , coffee shop, laundry mat ,park and places like that. Since the bar is not the best place for me were else can I go I am 34 and a single dad. Since online dating sucks how can I continue to talk to women with out my insecurity's from popping up. I am really trying to brake my shyness and build real confidences for looks I where t shirts and jeans sneakers is that OK there lose fit I don't like tight fitting cloths. As for my weight I am starting to work on that going for walk and cutting back on what I eat. I am not going to Waite for 2 years to lose weight to get a date or girlfriend. What else can I do to improve my chances I am not going to just settle for some girl I want the girl I want and deserve I know I am smart I know my writing skills and spelling leave lot to be desired you don't need that to talk to some one.
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A) Yes, it will get easier.
B) T-shirts are shapeless, so IMHO don't do any favors to guys who are _not_ in great shape. I don't want to radically change your style, but even a polo shirt (collar and a couple buttons) has a lot more structure that might look better. Don't go tight, but don't go loose either. Your clothes should fit well. If the clothes are the right size for you, it sort of makes it seem like YOU are the right size too.
C) Go hard on the diet, start lifting weights, and keep up the cardio. You shouldn't wait to be thin to go for women- try now - but pursue this aggressively. Not only does it help with women, it helps with your confidence. Getting in shape is not easy, but its easier then say ... teaching yourself to read.
Keep it up. Talking to women when you're out is a great starting step.3