i met this guy online four months ago and we are still talking from time to time and he is a nice guy. I used to like him at first but now I feeling am falling for him... and well, he always says things that I want to hear, he is 33and I am 25 and totally from different continents, But we are from the same country. We want to meet each other in real life somewhere in the near future.. but I don’t know about that. there isn’t a day that passed by without thinking about him and honestly, I'm afraid that I will fall in love with him. but at the same time, I want to. He confides about his everyday problems with me most of the time and he is the type of person who doesn't tell you his personal stuff that easily. I can feel that he easily opened up to me. he all the time tells me that he cares for me. well, maybe as a friend only but sometimes he puzzles me by saying things like ” when I talk to you I feel happy, I miss you ” or ” if you're here we would have gone that or this place, I would do anything for you ” or ” I cannot wait to meet up ” but am not sure about the whole situation, it confuses me that he will want to settle down with someone from a different country ? while we both have our lives and careers in our countries.
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Honestly, I would do my best to try to take a step back and analyze the situation logically. I know you feel now that you have this incredible connection, but what if it's totally different in real life? When you meet someone online, you only know what they choose to show you, and they can be anyone they want to be because, hey, you'll never know differently, right? He may be a completely different person offline. Even when you meet someone the old-fashioned way, in person at first vs. online first, it takes awhile to learn who they really are, because at first they'll try to impress you. Imagine how magnified that is online? They can be anyone they want to be, especially if they live in a different country. I would think that it would not be wise to meet this man in person. He may not be at all what he says and, in fact, he may even be dangerous. I realize it is hard now, but I promise it will be easier eventually and you will meet someone.
Because, even if he is who he says he is, what would happen if you fell for each other? Would either of you just be willing to give up everything, your family and friends and jobs and entire LIVES? I would try to distance myself from him. I honestly can't see it ending well. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose. :)0