Since I've started college I've enjoyed going out and experiencing the party scene. However, it seems to be the norm for my friends and I to find someone we're interested in and then have a minor smooch session on the dance floor. It was a lot of fun at first, (and still is), but now I feel as if I do it too often. Most of them have turned into little flings where we went on dates, but there have been some where the next morning I just wondered, "What was I thinking?"
I know it's because I'm not taking out the necessary time to get to know someone better before I hook up, but I feel like if I'm interested in a guy who's interested in me, and I pull away when he tries to kiss me, he's going to think I shot him down and give up. How do I solve this so I can still go out without feeling the pressure to makeout so much!
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If you feel guilty by your actions then who cares if he gets his feelings a little hurt. A guy who is worth it will wait until you are ready. I would suggest trying to make it a little more difficult for him to make a move. Distance your faces. When he is staring at you trying to figure out if it is okay to kiss you or not just slightly glance away. Eye contact is a big sign in body language. If he goes for it and do reject him. Just say sorry, I'm not that kind of girl. If he is a respectable guy he will understand and continue to hang out with you. If he gets fed up then you really don't want to involve yourself with that kind of guy anyways.
I hope this helps. Good luck! Just remember to be true to yourself. If you feel cheap by your makeout sessions then change it!2