It's a bit of a long one, but your insight would be helpful, thanks.
So I have been friends with this guy for a little more than a year now, who I met cos he had a fling with one of my friends.
We have talked a lot and get along really well, but in august last year we hooked up, it never got awkward or anything which was good.
But we've slept together a few times since then and iv visited him at work often, but never really hung out. He use to ring me and msg me and talk to me on msn heaps more until recently.
The last time I saw him was a couple of weeks ago at his work and the last time we really did anything was before new years. And its almost always me that msgs first, but he always replys and is never rude or anything, he's nice, but he never does it first like before.
I like him, but I don't want to push him into anything or make it awkward for both of us.
He is a really nice decent guy, but I have no idea if he doesn't want to see much of me anymore...
Do you think he likes me, or has gotten over me now?
Or am I just obsessing about nothing, and should not worry about it? And how would I show that I do like him more than just a fling without scaring him away?
- He is over me, but being nice for the sake of itVote A
- He does care, but has toned it downVote B
- I am making a bigger situation out of it than it really isVote C
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I had something similar happen with a guy, and what I noticed is, once you give them the milk for free they never see it as anything more, yesss there are times when no string attach hook ups turn into relationships but its rare, because the foundation of the realtionship is based on sex and hooking up and not actaully hanging out spending time together on a personal level ya no?...as for not acting as he normally did the only 3 reasons I would come up with are:
1.) He's met someone new that has his attn (strong possibility)
2.) He's starting to feel guilty for what he's doing ( doubt that tho)
3.) He's just so use to you being around that he doesn't even have to put the effort in to contacting you because he knows you will eventually
From what I know about guys and my guy friends is.. most guys WONT turn down oppprtunities for sex, and since your offering it, he's just going to take it, guys can hook up with girls without actaully feeling that connection like they want to be boyfriend and gf, which sucks, because that happened to me a few times, just like you your suddenly realizing you want something more than a fling, so my advice to you right now is to STOP contacting him, no calls, no texts, no msn, and noooo showing up at his job. See how him disappearing has made you wonder? well you have to do the same to him and see what he does, and from my past I have a pretty good feeling he will pop up again, and its at that time that you mention about doing something else, even if its something little like going to dunkin donuts to get hot choclate, just ANYTHING to see how he acts OUTSIDE the bedroom...good luck, and no more contact because honestly your making him feel like his dick is made out of 24k gold, and by the way he's acting he doesn't deserve it! haha Use the time that you arnt contacting him to focus on other guys and just watch how fast you get over this, because these flings never materalize into anything ever, and in thee end all you end up with is some horny guy after sex, and its not fun when you know you want more than that2