This girl I was seeing ditched me on my birthday last year to sleep with another guy. When I told her I had enough and wanted to end this she told me that she wanted to be with that other guy anyway and was going to dump me that week. She said that she didn't want to be with a guy that didn't have any family around for his birthday or Christmas. The new guy is one of these angry types. He put her in the hospital last month after he had one of his fits of rage. I don't understand what I did wrong. I used to wake up before her everyday and make her breakfast. How come me not having a family is a worst option than a guy that will put a girl in the hospital?
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I have a feeling that by saying she disliked that you have no family was just an excuse to break things off, because it seems like a pretty ridiculous reason to dump you for a guy like that. Now, as to the guy she is with, I can only come up with two options and it could be either one or a mixture of the two. One being that it may be self-sabotage without really knowing. I've known plenty of girls who have done this and sabotaged themselves when they have something good going for them because of problems they have had in the past or on a subconscious level they don't feel they deserve being treated well and tend to choose the guy who treats them poorly. Once again, they are often not even aware of this sabotage when they are doing or often blind themselves to what is going and try to justify the way the guy treated them in her mind, even if when it comes right down to it, it can't be justified. They will try though.
Two, is that sometimes girls stay on with the guy because of a sense of hero syndrome. They can't let go because they think they can fix the person they are with, and this is also something they may not be aware of and often deny it even when everyone else can clearly see that. So it is a sense of sacrificing themselves in hopes they can fix the other person for the better, even if it is impossible and the other person will often take advantage of people like this.
I don't know the girl, so I really can't determine her personality type and assess why she makes her decisions since I can only answer according to the information you've provided. However, those are my theories for why she would allow herself to remain in an abusive situation and also her petty reason for breaking things off, because I honestly don't think it was just a lack of a family that drove her away so much as an excuse to continue with the other guy for the reasons listed above.0