i am 29years old, never had a girlfriend, always being terribly shy with girls. I have had certain fear factors that prevents me putting of relationships. I think just need to get a grip and bite the now. how would why approach her and what do I say to her? I am blady scared mind you.
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I'll make a general comment or two, then answer 'how to ask a girl out'.
First of all, generally chat with people around you. Men, women, young, old, good looking, not good looking. Chat and see how they're responding to you. Do they like you? Are they being minimally polite, or more engaged? With women you might be interested in, how open are they being, are they trying to keep the conversation going, what do their eyes say, how's their body language? So don't try to 'pick up', rather be open and constantly monitor for interest. If a woman seems interested, and you are also interested, then ask for her number.
If you have met in a context where its understood you might be 'dating' (i.e. online site, or you met somewhere and she gave you her number - it wasn't to be friends) then you can simply suggest a time and place.
If its someone you sort of know but she hasn't implicitly agreed to date, a good approach is to tell her you are going to such and such a place, and ask if she'd like to join you. The implication is, you're going regardless, but you'd enjoy her company if she'd like. If not, maybe another time. And move on.1