If you have two suitors and they are both fun and charming in their own ways. One is sucessful and rich and the other is not as successful but very passionate and does what he believes in. Who would you most likely go for.
Also when I mean successful he has a very nice job and a lot of security and savings. While the other guy is not nearly as successful, and your future with him is a lot more uncertain.
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The second guy.
Money isn't important to me. I'm not very materialistic, I don't care about having fancy things. It's more important to me that my partner is happy, passionate about what he does, and stays true to himself. And success can be defined in more than one way.
The only reasons "money" matters to me has nothing to do with how rich a guy is.
1. I wouldn't want to date a guy who was lazy or lacked ambition/motivation. I would date a guy who didn't have a job, but if it was because he was a student, or because he lost his job and was looking for a new one---but not a guy who who lost his job and wasn't really trying to find a new one, or a guy who wasn't doing anything with his life and was relying on his parents to support him.
2. I want equality in a relationship, so I wouldn't want to date a guy who expected me to pay for all the costs of dating (though, if a guy is short on cash, I don't mind going on cheap or free dates); I would never move in with a guy if he wasn't more or less financially stable, because I wouldn't want to get stuck paying all the bills. I don't want to be with someone who is financially dependent on me (just as I would never feel comfortable being financially dependent on someone else).
3. I would want to be with someone who is financially responsible. Someone who budgets their money, rather than someone who would go out and make an impulse buy, and then be short for rent that month. I wouldn't want to date someone with a gambling addiction. I wouldn't want to date someone who had a lot of "bad" debt (i.e. debt based on poor financial decisions, whereas I'd be okay if someone had, for example, student loan debt, since they're investing in their future). I wouldn't want someone else's irresponsibility with money have a negative effect on me, which has the potential to happen when you're in a serious relationship with someone (i.e. if you're living together or making large purchases together, like a home or a car).
While all these things might be related to money, what I really care about are: ambition, fairness, independence, responsibility, and stability (not that I need to rely on a guy for stability---I have a good job and am able to take care of myself, but in the sense that I don't want to get screwed over if his financial instability has a negative effect on me; I'd be understanding if he lost his job and I had to pick up some slack, but not if his financial instability had to do with poor choices on his behalf).