Hi everyone! I have been going out with someone for 2 years. I love him and he loves me very much. Yesterday he told me that he wants to take our relationship to the next level. He meant marriage. He is my first boyfriend and for this reason I'm very confused. He told me that if I feel like I need to take a break for a couple of months to see what else is out there, then that's what I should do. But he said there are no guarantees that 'we will get back together if that's what I decided to do.
He said there's a chance that I could fall in love with someone else and he could as well...He's ready for marriage, I'm not. I love him very much and I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him but I have this fear, like I didn't experience life. What should I do?
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If you are not ready for commitment then don't marry him .... his suggestion about meeting other guys might sound like a good idea, but at the moment is he gonna wait for you? or he is gonna do the same? It might sound like a good idea but in reality is not because the relationship will not be the same anymore... my friend did that with her husband; they both tried other people while married, and they have lost respect for each other unfortunately.
Every time they argue, he would throw on her face that she too enjoyed other guys and of course women get the rough part.... it does not matter if you guys make an agreement because at the end it would not matter to either of you.... it will always be on your head.... so like I always told my friend, it was a risky decision and now she regrets it...
If you think you need to experience life then do it and don't get married yet.... you are still young .... just ask him for time, tell him you are not ready to step into a marriage.... let your relationship grow more and see what happens.... but if you guys decide to meet other people, it is a risk you have to take, like he said you or him might fall for that other person ..... you may have more to lose than him, remember that...0