I'm a 30 year old, normal hard working guy. Almost a year ago I moved to a different state for a new white collar job that pays well but is very demanding via time. I also run a consulting business on the side so I average around 45 to 65 hours work week sometimes more.. Being a former professional athlete (was a cage fighter) staying in shape is still a huge deal to me. I'm not vain, it's just my pride. I make sure to work out for at least one hour every day. This doesn't include the time I take to ride my bicycle to the local gyms.
So anyway I really have refused to jump right into the "I'm middle aged now ..so lets drink...drink... get a beer gut...laugh...bullsh*t...socialize...and drink some more" mindset that many of my coworkers have. I'm a little antisocial, but for a good reason. I hate the fat corporate, sedentary lifestyle. Everybody acts in denial that they are getting in worse and worse shape and aging faster. I used to think it was just an illusion about getting older. But the movie office space is some ways really true. So with exercise/work life I really don't get out and socialize more than once a week. I decided to turn to online dating (I've had a close friend find his wife on POF).
I am also dismayed to notice that the older and more white collar I get (despite still being in great shape) the more of a magnate I've become for blood sucking, professional dating women who want a nice dinner/attention for one night and nada else (yeah...you guessed...no intimacy). I'm the man, so I pay up even when women offer. Deep down I think it's complete bullsh*t and a disgusting double standard that so called modern women (including hypocritical feminist) still happily embrace. Now than I've become a white collar guy I see some women are looking to gold dig even more. Back when I was doing MMA I had several blue collar buddies who worked respectable (personal trainer, kickboxing instructor, contracting, etc), yet low paying blue collar jobs and had professional white collar women (nurses, teachers, etc) helping them out. Some of these women were pretty attractive too. I was in and out of a lot different girls back then. Can't say there weren't times I wasn't lonely. But at least I had my moments.
I changed my career to use my education and too keep my future in mind. Deep down I really want a wife and kids. But all I run into is freeloading women who want momentary/monetary attention. In the last 6 months I haven't gone further than a kiss and embrace from a few women (no sex). The only girl I did sleep was a little cute blond who didn't know my age (we met in a club too...not online).
I will admit I don't like my job (although it pays well) and miss my old mma lifestyle. I will admit I'm depressed. But I would be more depressed if I was broke. It just feels like I get punished for doing the right thing in life (cause sometimes the right thing is not as glamorous...actually kind of boring).
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Sounds like you're working out what you really want and how you can get there. Sounds like what a lot of people go through around this age.
I don't think quitting your job is going to make things easier for you and you definitely shouldn't give it up just because women are trying to get into your pockets. (If you sense that a woman is doing that, and you didn't ask her out and you know it's not going anywhere, you can always take her up on splitting the check.) However, if it's true that you absolutely hate the corporate lifestyle and and are beyond miserable working in an office, that's a very real reason to seriously consider a career change. But are you sure it's the job itself and not the depression talking? If you're sure it's the job, you ought to start thinking of another job you'd like and how you can make it happen.
I don't mean to offend you, but maybe the reason you're not getting action is because women sense that you're not well? Depression--in the clinical sense, I'm not talking sadness--is serious and people can pick up on it. Most people want to date someone optimistic and easygoing, and a depressed person is usually not. So I'd recommend getting that treated for your own sense of well being, through medication or therapy or through whatever means you prefer, ASAP. The sooner you get that licked the easier everything else is going to be.
Women like a guy who is successful and many want a husband who can be a provider, so I think the fact that you're a professional making a good living is a good thing. I agree that maybe you could try meeting ladies other places, like the gym or some kind of community group you're part of or something. And get a cute dog and take her on walks; they're chick magnets. Anyway, at least you're a guy and biologically, you have plenty of time to find a wife and have kids. And you will.
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