For my own situation, a girl was sending me mixed signals. After talking with someone about it, they said maybe she was afraid of getting into the relationship, afraid of getting hurt, afraid of opening up, or afraid of becoming closer.
If you were in a spot like this, how do you want the guy to proceed with you? It's incredibly frustrating because I feel like there's so much room for error. I just want to do what's right.
So what do you want us to do?
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I would just like to say, on behalf of all girls who display this frustrating behavior, I am so sorry. Basically, girls like she and I allow ourselves to be vulnerable and some selfish, inconsiderate jerk doesn't appreciate it then we end up getting sincerely, deeply hurt. It becomes natural for us to want to protect ourselves and we begin to display this, I'm sure annoying and frustrating behavior. Even if the guy is a good guy who is kind and sweet, it's like we still have to keep our guards up because the last guy was like that and he left us feeling so painfully disappointed. It feels like sh*t giving someone have your heart then having them stomp all over it and hand it right back :(
I would suggest that you have a very real, open, honest discussion with her about what you are to her. Ask her what she views you as. Open up a discussion about past relationships and getting hurt. Just be very open, honest, and real. It may make her feel more comfortable telling you about why she acts the way she does and maybe she'll start letting her guard down. If she's really worth it, then be patient and try to help her get over it. Just having that talk is like a peephole into the depths of her and hopefully it will make you more understanding :)1
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