So I met this girl the other night, we chatted for a bit and it went pretty well. I got her on the dance floor and dragged along her friends as well (got to keep them involved so I'm told). I then left her for awhile.
I was leaving soon so I thought I better get her number before I left. So I went up to her in front of all of her mates and said can I take you out over Xmas and what's your number. She gave it to me and I said cool I will text u, and left her and her mates alone. Usually I would just ask for a number not a date as well, so hopefully I wasn't to forward for her.
So what do you think about me sending this text...
Hey ******** (personal joke which we shared in our convo) how's things? Hope I wasn't to forward in the way in which I asked for your number the other day, but I would genuinely like to meet up sometime. So do you have any plans for Friday. X
I think the text will show her my sense of humor, consideration of her feelings, I genuinely actually want to meet her (so I wasn't getting her number just for my ego) and also a bit of dominance (women love that apparently) by not mixing my words and asking for a date.
Your thoughts would be appreciated, as I have been out of the game for nearly 8 months now.
So I will scrap everything after the opening how's things and say, so when are we going to carry on our convo, how does one night this week sound over dinner?
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Him: "Hey ******. What are you doing Friday night?" [Call back humor from your inside joke is great. Couple it with a not subtle reference that you want to go out]
Her: "Nothing" [She is admitting to being free which now gives you an opportunity to come up with plans
Him:"Thats too bad. I wanted to grab dinner but if you insist on doing nothing..." or "How about dinner at Magiano's? I'll pick you up around 8." [First one is kind of a toss up. Some women might not like or get that kind of humor and will think you really don't want to get dinner anymore. The second one is pretty straight forward. I've always been a fan of the "Ill pick you up at 8" approach because I think it's old school charm and you don't waste 15 texts trying to figure out what the other person wants to do or when to meet by asking "What do you feel like?"
That's my take on things. Just remember to go into every situation already expecting the best possible outcome and that you're the best guy in the world. Chicks like guys that appear normal and by normal I mean don't have an agenda or are too nice and appeasing. They like boundaries. So do guys. Be direct but not forceful and it'll be come across as confident but not cocky.0