My boyfriend broke up with me and it ended civily. It ended because he said he saw it getting to a point where I would be more attatched to him than he would be to me. He swore that it was him and not me, and he's an honest person so I believe him. He would tell me if it was something different. We dated for about 2 months and have known each other for a year and a half. He told me that he really cared about me and still wanted me in his life and wanted me to be a friend. I told hiim that it would be a while before I would be able to-never giving him a deadline as to when I would feel comfortable. He told me that I should do whatever I needed to do and then approach him. I decided to give myself a 6 week rule with no communication. However, I didn't want him to think that I was angry or hated him, because neither is the case. I called him a week later, he didn't pick up, and left that on his voicemail. I basically said what I told you, and added that if he needed to get ahold of me he could. Did I do the right thing? Or did I just make myself sound crazy?
I do feel tons better.
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It's understandable what you did, but you really need to keep with your 6 weeks of no communication. You told him already that you needed time and he understood that so he knows your are getting space to move on. I went through the same thing. I dated a guy for 3 years and he broke up with me for another girl. I was really painful and even though he still wanted to be my friend it made moving on even harder. A month after the break up I told him I needed distance from him and just couldn't see or talk to him until I had moved on. He understood and gave me this space. It really helped me to focus on other areas of my life and see there was more then just him. It also made him miss having me in my life and he dumped the new girl and came back to me.
I used to think no contact wouldn't work because it would come off as mean or as me ignoring him, but now I see it is the best thing you can do for yourself after a break up. So keep with the 6 weeks and next time you feel like calling or texting him, put the phone down and find something to keep your hands and mind busy until the feeling passes.0