I have a profile I have sent out responses and never hear back I am talking like 5 a day can some one check it out and tell me what's wrong with it? I always send a message just saying you seem nice would you like to chat what else can I say?
my profile in at okcupid and my user name is bigmichael1 any help would be great
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It's because your emails are general, cliche, and predictable. You need to switch up everything from the subject line to how you say your greetings. In the subject line, instead of saying "hey" say "I noticed something on your profile" it doesn't have to be that, but it has to be something that will get her to at least open up your email out of 1000s that have "hey" in the subject box, then, when greeting her, find something unique instead of just "hello" actually don't even start off with a greeting. Thirdly,
Never approach the email like "hey, you seem nice, my name is...I am...also I am..finally I am...can we chat...I'd like to get to know you" because it's something she's already heard and she probably is tired of responding to the same old all the time.
Instead, do something like this, for instance, say there is a blue lava lamp in the background of one of her pictures, your email can be like
Subject: Do you always keep that thing as a background in your pictures?
"That lava lamp, its pretty cool, but I didn't realize we were still in the 70s, you're not some drug taking hippie are you? :-) LOL, I'm just kidding, (then continue talking about something and end with a cliff hanger)
Never ask her to respond and never say something like "hope to hear back" don't even put a closure, just sign off with your name, don't even introduce yourself, like my name is Jack, just be spontaneous, like if you were in the bar, you'd be like ""What kind of drink is that?" Instead of "Hi, my name is Jack, you come here often?" get what I mean?1