I just turned 21 at the end of December, and I will be graduating college in a year and a half, so of course law school was in my plans which means that I need to do LSAT prep this summer so I can take it in the Fall and apply to schools. I recently met this guy on POF and I mean I know that like I don't want to get my hopes up because things never work out for me but I am hoping and praying that maybe I will date this guy, and get to FINALLY have sex lol and just be with someone and be someones other half and it will be great. Anyways I met him and he is perfect and he says he likes me and I am thinking about having sex with him (after we are officially dating) and he has made it clear that he doesn't use condoms on girls he is dating. I am on birth control so OK that's fine, but I mean what if I got pregnant? He seems like a great guy, he says within 5 years he wants to be married and have children and I want the same thing. I really want to be someones wife and mother, and of course I would LOVE to go to law school but if that doesn't happen then I mean who cares? I am kind of just looking for advice from other women who are mothers. Here is my dilemma, I want all of this, but I want it the "right way" no offense to anyone, but I want to like be married and then have babies and have real family like the way I grew up with my married parents who love each other so much after 25 years, well part of me wants that, the other part of me is like WHO CARES just have a beautiful little baby who will always be around and you'll never be lonely again. I guess that is the problem, I am just so lonely. And I don't know how to occupy myself anymore like I can't say that if I ended up dating this guy and being in a sexual relationship with him I wouldn't try to get pregnant, I just want to feel like someone wants me and needs me you know? Like I am constantly rejected by guys lol they obviously do not want me so at least if I had a baby I would be busy and it would need me and want me you know? But at the same time that is not a baby's responsibility to keep me happy and I would want to provide a good life for my baby.
I don't know what I am asking, I just want like advice and opinions because I feel like I am so low right now, like I have never been more unhappy, but things (other than my relationships with men) are going so well for me. But to me the most important thing is meeting someone to be with, I just don't know what to do anymore?
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I don't think you should throw away your dreams for a guy, EVER. I am applying to law school now and working my ASS off. Do not take your opportunities for granted. The LSAT is a bitch but you'll get through it. Don't throw your dreams away, especially for some guy you just met online. You are thinking WAYYYYYY too much ahead. I don't trust that he doesn't use condoms. He sounds really sketchy for me. And I think if you have a baby without a man it is stupid and you will regret it. Stop right now, take two steps back,and look at the bigger picture. You are so young, DO NOT THROW YOUR DREAMS AWAY.2