I'm studying abroad in Finland from the United States. So far, pretty much everything is on par with what I signed up for: Beautifully cold weather, live music everywhere that fits in with my metalness, and a great educational environment.
The one problem I'm having is that I feel like I'm not really "socializing" enough. I was in a huge dating slump back in the States, which is one of the reasons why I left the country in the first place. It doesn't help that most Finns tend to be quite reserved in conversation (and that I don't speak much Finnish, but the former is far more of a barrier).
Does anyone have any advice for me? Keep in mind that I plan on returning to Finland on a more permanent basis once I finish my last year of school back in the US.
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You may already have found a "Best Answer", but I'd really like to help you too. I currently live in Denmark(and has all my life), which is pretty close to Finland + my great grandparents were Finnish or something like that. So, I may know a bit to how those people behave and such.
I can tell you that most Scandinavian people with English-as-second-language are terrified of talking to British or American people. Most Scandinavians have an accent, which they're highly aware of, and speaking to someone with no accent may make them feel bad, because it reminds them of ow they can't "speak it properly". I know you said that this isn't the main problem.. But, actually it IS a problem. It'll be a problem if they don't enjoy talking to you, or if you intimidate them, so maybe try compliment them sometimes saying: "Oh, you're really good at English!" or "Hey, your English is really good. If someone else was listening to our conversation, he wouldn't be able to tell that your native language isn't English." - Stuff like this may make them feel confident and good about themselves. So, they associate you with a good feeling. But, it's true that they of course will speak to whoever speaks to them, if just the person is kind and polite.
I would also suggest maybe start doing some activities. It's a great way to meet new people and bond quickly. I must be honest and say that the "randomly going into a library and talking to a stranger" is a bad idea in this Area. After you leave, the girl's most likely to think: "He's definitely a desperate stalker." or anything else very negative. So, well.. Good luck.1