I'm 21 years old.. pretty (at least I think I am), goody-nice girl type,
educated finished undergrad schooling and now taking up law,
you might classify me as nerd when I wear my glasses, but I'm confident and I like myself.. but I just can't seem to understand why I haven't had a boyfriend... Waaah!
i've dated some looser guys who likes me, they say I'm pretty, easy to be with but known of them seems to impress me, I find them somehow insecure.. I don't mean to judge them, but I kinda get this feeling that it won't work.. so I refuse another date with them..
I am being picky? or prideful? or whatever?
is it right that I just somehow feel I deserve someone better?
or this will leave me... forever alone... T_T
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You don't want to be in a rush and end up making a mistake. When you say these "losers" are insecure, do you mean not assertive? That impression can be deceiving. He may have had a negative experience and doesn't want to dive in again too fast. That doesn't mean he won't bounce back. Some guys are only assertive once they know you better, and then can be aggressive beyond what you are looking for. He may be confident among girls who don't impress him much, but fumbles for words when he meets the one who makes his socks roll up and down. If you prefer a guy who comes off as confident around everyone from the very outset, there are plenty to go around. But a very confident guy can also be a player or controlling - with a long list of ex's who had enough. My guess is that you will find more candidates in a crowd that is slightly older than you. But take your time exploring. There is only so much you can uncover about a guy in one or two dates. Go less by what he says and more by what he does.0